This is this sunday’s sermon from our church. It’s in german, but well worth it if you understand it!
Again, this is based on Paul Washers sermon on biblical manhood.
If you look at the fake fantasy of the world, or you won’t be satisfied by the beauty of God’s creation! Nor will you be happy with your wife… You get to the point where you are so bombarded by fiction that the real thing won’t bring you any joy! The false prophet isn’t only mormon or jehovas witness, it’s wall street and marketing!
“In our own home, we don’t have cable, we don’t have anything! We can selectively watch things.” Spongebob would have been considered grotesque, viral, disgusting a few years ago – now, it’s for children. Same thing here. In my home, we have an LCD screen, and we watch stuff from a Raspberry Pi , or a laptop. No ads, no movies we don’t wanna see, no waste of time. You can watch so many things that you lose discernment for what is good and you become animalistic.
Even good things can be bad. Don’t let good movies replace the time you spend reading to your children! When books will replace multimedia in the home, you will see a transformation in your home! Not just christian books, any good books! Nothing can replace the social interaction of a father reading to his sons. This will build relationship, and the sons will learn a lot more from it than just the content of the book!
You see, Christianity goes really, really deep. It’s not about going to church on Sundays and not doing a few things, it changes everything! You don’t have to become a road scholar to change this, it’s simple things like reading with your children! Or else, the media will get you!
Avoid people who do not fear the Lord. Do not hang around with people who do not resemble the scripture. Do you hate the works of the world? Flee them! They shall not cling to you!
2 Timothy 2:16-21
Even ungodly speech will affect us to the point where it will lead us into ungodliness! “Everyone who calls upon the name of the Lord is to abstain from wickedness.” (2 Timothy 2:19)
You want to be used of the Lord? Take inventory of your life. Separate yourself from the wicked things. Like and athlete, follow Hebrews 12:1-2. Leave anything that is wicked and wrong behind. If you really want to reach your goal, it has to be your only goal! Everything you do will have to bring you closer to your goal. If it doesn’t, stop it!
Do not learn a new truth in one evening and impose it upon your home. That’s legalistic and may turn into a dictatorship.
- Test the truth in the scripture.
- Study to find out what you can apply.
- Apply it in your life.
- Talk it over with your family.
Most of the things called “christian” in America today are not christian. Are you ready to set yourself apart, and be used of the Lord?
Here we go with the next part of the sermon!I’m going to look at what we can do to become godly men.
First of all, men must dominate themselves through scripture and the holy spirit.
We must avoid evil influences. Avoid the media and godless conversations like the plague. Like God told Cain, sin waits around the corner like a wild beast. You ought to fear. There is a certain thing about fear that’s very healthy: realising that you are not superman and that if you fall over, you leave a wife, and children, and a church.
If you are single and wanna live your life, go ahead. But if you are a man and have a woman, fear about the destruction of your soul, her soul, and the souls of your children.
Set yourself apart from the world!
Avoid evil influences. As Romans 12:2 says, we should not conform to this world. No unequal yokes. This doesn’t only apply to courting and marriage, but also to the way we spend our time, and who we spend it with. If you have ungodly friends, or spend time on television and multimedia, you will be influenced by that!
2 Timothy 2:22
We need to reject the lust within, and actively! pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace.
We fight the devil, but we flee youthful lust. Something in our flesh is worse than the devil himself! Do not put yourself in a situation where you are to be tested.
Most teenagers have already had romantic sexual experiences.
Do not be alone with a person of the opposite sex that you are attracted to. And do not put your children into that situation. Where did you learn that it’s time to date with 16? From the world! If you put two people of the opposite sex together, they will fall. This is one of the reasons why I decided to follow the principles of courtship. You can find that post in November 2012.
“My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge.” The church is destroyed because we don’t turn to the scriptures for matters of family. We conform to the world in every possible way because we think that we need to be like them to be relevant, to “be a light” as they say. But this is completely unbiblical! You see:
“that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast to the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I may be proud that I did not run in vain or labor in vain.” (Philippians 2:15.16)
We are a light in the world when we are not conformed to it, but separated! Do you want to be preached the bible, or live a pagan life with a few christian elements?
Train your children so that the only suitor they will accept is a godly one.
Do not be involved with other men who do not care about the things of God – I don’t care how much you read the bible, you will be influenced. Protect the eyes!
Psalm 101:3 & Job 31:1
In our perverse culture, even the women are now attracted to the opposite sex through the eyes. Like the psalmist, we should protect our eyes, and therefore our minds! Our Prayer should be Psalm 19:14 – “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.”
Let us not stain ourselves with one drop of unclean things! This holds for any form of entertainment (movies etc.) and friendships!
If a movie has only one dirty scene, don’t watch it!
If we really want to be godly men, we should “put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” (Romans 13:14) Do we really fight to achieve this?
“Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love.” (1 Corinthians 16:13.14)
Paul Washer elaborated many of his points on this verse; so will I.
As culture moves further and further away from scripture, it moves further away from the institutions of scripture. That’s why we have such a mixture of masculinity and femininity today. We have lost what it means to be a man, and to be a women. We need to go back to scripture and learn what family should look like, what we should teach our sons.
What does it mean to be a man?
A man is on the alert. He is a watchman in the fallen world. He knows that he must guard the things he has been appointed stewardship to by the Lord. He does not have the luxury to let his chest fall. He stands firm in his faith. He knows what he believes, and he acts on that knowledge. He will stand steadfast and protect his family, come hell or high water.
He does not make the woman take responsibilities in church that they shouldn’t have to take. He takes responsibilities, he teaches.
Acting like men doesn’t mean act like bullies, or stick the chest out. But be strong, and act in love. A man loves God, loves 1 woman, loves his children, and loves the people of God. He always acts in love no matter what sacrifices this means for him. He pours his life into his family. When he comes home from work, he teaches and he serves.
He’s through with playing games, because he doesn’t have the time.
This is just getting started. I will follow this post up with more detail on the way we should live. It’s time to grow up. Let’s become the men we are supposed to be. Let’s work!
This is an important matter if you haven’t heard of it yet. Paul Washer mentions it in many of his sermons because it’s so relevant.
The fact is that our society lacks men. Few generations ago, boys would work hard and grow up to become men around 12, or maybe 15. They worked, built homes, loved wives. One of Paul Washers examples is the movie “Master and Commander” in which young men aged around 15 lead the charge from a british vessel onto a french one during the Napoleonic wars. The famous Jonathan Edwards graduated from Yale at 17 – he began college at 13. What happened to our society? How did we get to the point where 15-year olds play games and 16-year olds go to the mall?
The loss of manhood in our society was caused by the changes of the ’60 and ’70, when our culture decided that feminists and homosexuals knew more about education and family than every culture that has ever existed on the face of the earth. They introduced something called adolescence, something that doesn’t exist in scripture – nor any culture prior to ours until as little as 40 years ago, for that matter. With adolescence, boys get the privileges of men without assuming the responsibilities of men. The result? They never grow up! And now, we have 40 year olds that don’t have time to take care of their wives, or to teach and train their children, because they are busy playing games with their friends!
We should strive to introduce our sons to manhood as soon as they can walk. We need to train them to become godly men according to scripture. This is what the church needs most, now.
I’m currently going through a short series by Paul Washer on biblical manhood.
It’s very dense, so I’ll write posts on multiple topics that I’ll take from the series.
At the end of this sunday’s sermon, which I might post in the near future, our pastor gave us a short set of instructions on the right way to confess sins. 5 Points to sum up how you have to do it:
- Self-Accusing – Be like King David!
- Voluntary, unforced – Like water flows from a source. The forsaken son did this very well.
- With all your heart – Mourn, and repent! Again, the forsaken son is an excellent example.
- Specific – Say your name, date and time, exactly what happened, and don’t give any excuses or reasons! Don’t be like Adam – “The Woman you gave me”
- Find the Sin behind the sin – A “small” sin often comes from deeper within – jealousy, pride, egoism…
Be structured (as in, do it regularly), but don’t don’t let this keep you from being spontaneous!
The Love we are supposed to have to our wife is not some overflowing emotion, but the Love Christ has for us. We are to sanctify her!
Turn to the Lord to receive motivation to love her, not to her.
We are to view her as a child of the king, who’s been entrusted to us, and our desire is that our love, that overflows for her, would be a sanctifying influence in her life for the love of Christ who loved us.
We do not only love her that way because she is a part of christ’s body, but she also is a part of OUR body.
The sexual union between a man and his wife is a living, breathing, all-inspiring expression of the ecstasy of the union the church awaits. We do not think highly enough about sex. We don’t respect, honor it enough.
so, don’t we dare make less of it!
I will quickly sum up a few of the most important points.
Requirements for (any) relationship:
- Spiritual Leadership in Scripture
- Ephesians 5 – Give Life for Her – Protect her and care for her – stay with her if she needs you
- Economic care
Interest in Girls: Signal to start preparing → assume responsibility – Manhood (NOT SIGNAL FOR STARTING)
If clothing is a frame for your face, it is from God.
If clothing is a frame for your body, it is sensual, and God hates it.
If you spend enough time alone with a girl you are attracted to, you will fall. Flee from youthful lusts! They are more dangerous than the devil!
please listen to the sermon and read my full notes if you are interested in this topic.
Yesterday, I listened to a very good sermon on sexual purity by Rick Holland.
My complete notes are available here:
I will sum up the 6 main points: Proverbs 5
- Learn from the Bible! → 1 Kings 3-4 Solomon’s wisdom came from God, So the Proverbs are good.
Keep words ready on your lips to fight temptation.
The DAD talks to his son about sex. Rick: about 10 years old.
Do NOT forget the pleasure part.
Reaction of the sons – blessing from God: they came back and asked questions! 🙂
- Uncover the deception of sexual sin.
Not only women seduce men, men also seduce women!
In the bible, flirting only happens in adultery or in the context of marriage!
In these times, a 1 edged sword was a tool, but a 2 edged sword was purely a weapon → the temptress is a lethal weapon!
The course of this woman’s life leads to death.
She is persuasive and dangerous.
- Learn the value of a safe distance.
Josef principle: RUN as far as possible. As soon as you start thinking about it.
Romans 13: Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision to the flesh with regard to its lust. ⇒ It is a contradiction for someone to say they want to fight sexual temptation, and to do everything possible to expose themselves to pornography.
- Unmask the Consequences of sin.
Verse 9: Losing dignity
Verses 10-11: Losing resources
Verses 12-13: Remorse and regret
Verse 14: Public disgrace
Your Spouse will lose trust!
You will lose your peace (of mind).
Others will gain an opportunity to make fun of Christ!
- Unlock the satisfaction of marital fidelity!
Cisterns where a privilege of the rich.
⇒ Satisfaction only comes from your spouse.
Sex is ONE PART of expressing love.
Song of Solomon 7: Be entranced not only by her body, but BY HER LOVE.
If you are satisfied at home, sexually, you are not tempted as much outside.
- Unleash the power of god knowing everything.
Hebrews 4:13 EVERYTHING is revealed before God!
Are you more afraid of other people or of God?