This is this sunday’s sermon from our church. It’s in german, but well worth it if you understand it!
Here we go with the next part of the sermon!I’m going to look at what we can do to become godly men.
First of all, men must dominate themselves through scripture and the holy spirit.
We must avoid evil influences. Avoid the media and godless conversations like the plague. Like God told Cain, sin waits around the corner like a wild beast. You ought to fear. There is a certain thing about fear that’s very healthy: realising that you are not superman and that if you fall over, you leave a wife, and children, and a church.
If you are single and wanna live your life, go ahead. But if you are a man and have a woman, fear about the destruction of your soul, her soul, and the souls of your children.
Set yourself apart from the world!
Avoid evil influences. As Romans 12:2 says, we should not conform to this world. No unequal yokes. This doesn’t only apply to courting and marriage, but also to the way we spend our time, and who we spend it with. If you have ungodly friends, or spend time on television and multimedia, you will be influenced by that!
2 Timothy 2:22
We need to reject the lust within, and actively! pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace.
We fight the devil, but we flee youthful lust. Something in our flesh is worse than the devil himself! Do not put yourself in a situation where you are to be tested.
Most teenagers have already had romantic sexual experiences.
Do not be alone with a person of the opposite sex that you are attracted to. And do not put your children into that situation. Where did you learn that it’s time to date with 16? From the world! If you put two people of the opposite sex together, they will fall. This is one of the reasons why I decided to follow the principles of courtship. You can find that post in November 2012.
“My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge.” The church is destroyed because we don’t turn to the scriptures for matters of family. We conform to the world in every possible way because we think that we need to be like them to be relevant, to “be a light” as they say. But this is completely unbiblical! You see:
“that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast to the word of life, so that in the day of Christ I may be proud that I did not run in vain or labor in vain.” (Philippians 2:15.16)
We are a light in the world when we are not conformed to it, but separated! Do you want to be preached the bible, or live a pagan life with a few christian elements?
Train your children so that the only suitor they will accept is a godly one.
Do not be involved with other men who do not care about the things of God – I don’t care how much you read the bible, you will be influenced. Protect the eyes!
Psalm 101:3 & Job 31:1
In our perverse culture, even the women are now attracted to the opposite sex through the eyes. Like the psalmist, we should protect our eyes, and therefore our minds! Our Prayer should be Psalm 19:14 – “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.”
Let us not stain ourselves with one drop of unclean things! This holds for any form of entertainment (movies etc.) and friendships!
If a movie has only one dirty scene, don’t watch it!
If we really want to be godly men, we should “put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires.” (Romans 13:14) Do we really fight to achieve this?
I’m currently going through a short series by Paul Washer on biblical manhood.
It’s very dense, so I’ll write posts on multiple topics that I’ll take from the series.
I will quickly sum up a few of the most important points.
Requirements for (any) relationship:
- Spiritual Leadership in Scripture
- Ephesians 5 – Give Life for Her – Protect her and care for her – stay with her if she needs you
- Economic care
Interest in Girls: Signal to start preparing → assume responsibility – Manhood (NOT SIGNAL FOR STARTING)
If clothing is a frame for your face, it is from God.
If clothing is a frame for your body, it is sensual, and God hates it.
If you spend enough time alone with a girl you are attracted to, you will fall. Flee from youthful lusts! They are more dangerous than the devil!
please listen to the sermon and read my full notes if you are interested in this topic.
Yesterday, I listened to a very good sermon on sexual purity by Rick Holland.
My complete notes are available here:
I will sum up the 6 main points: Proverbs 5
- Learn from the Bible! → 1 Kings 3-4 Solomon’s wisdom came from God, So the Proverbs are good.
Keep words ready on your lips to fight temptation.
The DAD talks to his son about sex. Rick: about 10 years old.
Do NOT forget the pleasure part.
Reaction of the sons – blessing from God: they came back and asked questions! 🙂
- Uncover the deception of sexual sin.
Not only women seduce men, men also seduce women!
In the bible, flirting only happens in adultery or in the context of marriage!
In these times, a 1 edged sword was a tool, but a 2 edged sword was purely a weapon → the temptress is a lethal weapon!
The course of this woman’s life leads to death.
She is persuasive and dangerous.
- Learn the value of a safe distance.
Josef principle: RUN as far as possible. As soon as you start thinking about it.
Romans 13: Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision to the flesh with regard to its lust. ⇒ It is a contradiction for someone to say they want to fight sexual temptation, and to do everything possible to expose themselves to pornography.
- Unmask the Consequences of sin.
Verse 9: Losing dignity
Verses 10-11: Losing resources
Verses 12-13: Remorse and regret
Verse 14: Public disgrace
Your Spouse will lose trust!
You will lose your peace (of mind).
Others will gain an opportunity to make fun of Christ!
- Unlock the satisfaction of marital fidelity!
Cisterns where a privilege of the rich.
⇒ Satisfaction only comes from your spouse.
Sex is ONE PART of expressing love.
Song of Solomon 7: Be entranced not only by her body, but BY HER LOVE.
If you are satisfied at home, sexually, you are not tempted as much outside.
- Unleash the power of god knowing everything.
Hebrews 4:13 EVERYTHING is revealed before God!
Are you more afraid of other people or of God?