A dating sermon – Paul Washer

Another awesome sermon, I listened to this one on Tuesday ( 2 days ago)
Again, my full notes are available.

I will quickly sum up a few of the most important points.

Requirements for (any) relationship:

  1. Spiritual Leadership in Scripture
  2. Ephesians 5 – Give Life for Her – Protect her and care for her – stay with her if she needs you
  3. Economic care

Interest in Girls: Signal to start preparing → assume responsibility – Manhood (NOT SIGNAL FOR STARTING)

If clothing is a frame for your face, it is from God.
If clothing is a frame for your body, it is sensual, and God hates it.

If you spend enough time alone with a girl you are attracted to, you will fallFlee from youthful lusts! They are more dangerous than the devil!

 

please listen to the sermon and read my full notes if you are interested in this topic.

Sexual Purity – A sermon by Rick Holland

Yesterday, I listened to a very good sermon on sexual purity by Rick Holland.
My complete notes are available here:

I will sum up the 6 main points: Proverbs 5

  1. Learn from the Bible! → 1 Kings 3-4 Solomon’s wisdom came from God, So the Proverbs are good.
    Keep words ready on your lips to fight temptation.
    The DAD talks to his son about sex. Rick: about 10 years old.
    Do NOT forget the pleasure part.
    Reaction of the sons – blessing from God: they came back and asked questions! 🙂
  2. Uncover the deception of sexual sin.
    Not only women seduce men, men also seduce women!
    In the bible, flirting only happens in adultery or in the context of marriage!
    In these times, a 1 edged sword was a tool, but a 2 edged sword was purely a weapon → the temptress is a lethal weapon!
    The course of this woman’s life leads to death.
    She is persuasive and dangerous.
  3. Learn the value of a safe distance.
    Josef principle: RUN as far as possible. As soon as you start thinking about it.
    Romans 13: Put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision to the flesh with regard to its lust. ⇒ It is a contradiction for someone to say they want to fight sexual temptation, and to do everything possible to expose themselves to pornography.
  4. Unmask the Consequences of sin.
    Verse 9: Losing dignity
    Verses 10-11: Losing resources
    Verses 12-13: Remorse and regret
    Verse 14: Public disgrace
    Your Spouse will lose trust!
    You will lose your peace (of mind).
    Others will gain an opportunity to make fun of Christ!
  5. Unlock the satisfaction of marital fidelity!
    Cisterns where a privilege of the rich.
    ⇒ Satisfaction only comes from your spouse.
    Sex is ONE PART of expressing love.
    Song of Solomon 7: Be entranced not only by her body, but BY HER LOVE.
    If you are satisfied at home, sexually, you are not tempted as much outside.
  6. Unleash the power of god knowing everything.
    Verses 20-21
    Hebrews 4:13 EVERYTHING is revealed before God!
    Are you more afraid of other people or of God?

Is a girl more because of her relationship with you?

I found a very interesting statement in chapter 9 of EYMB:

I had little to offer a girl, but I wanted everything from her. It didn’t register with me that this was someone’s future wife, or that she was a real human with real needs that I could meet. Instead, it was all about me and making me feel good. Had I been godly, she could have become more because of her relationship with me. Too often, she was less because I took from her what only her husband should take.

This passage really hit me hard. What is more important to me: taking as much as possible, or giving as much as I can? I promised before GOD that every girl I know now or meet in the future, be she my friend, girlfriend, fiancée, wife, or even none of these, will become more, hopefully even grow spiritually because of me. And you know what the best part about this is? I know for sure that the HOLY SPIRIT will help me in making this happen 🙂

The Covenant with my eyes

Reading chapters 7 & 8 of EYMB, I heard about Job:

I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl.
Job 31:1

After further digging into this topic, I realized that this was what I had to do – so I did. I promised that my sin would stop from now on – down to every single little look. And than I prayed, brought this before GOD, and asked for his help in making this possible.

Hello world!

Yesterday, the 25th of July, 2012, was a turning point in my life. Realizing that I was much too loose in my fight against sexual immorality and porn, I started “Every Young man’s Battle”, which I had read before – but this Time I didn’t want to stop short. I wanted to do it right. After doing 2 Sessions in the workbook, based on 6 chapters in the book, I felt GOD’s presence in me stronger than ever. I prayed a lot and read a lot, until I decided, among other things, to start a blog documenting my daily life with the LORD.

Cover of Every Young Man's Battle